Live & Let Live

My boyfriend came down to Shawnee for a visit :):):):):)

Thursday we went to the local mexican restaurant, got overly stuffed on over greasy and equally yummy food and drank margaritas like they were going out of style. We also got down on some Just Dance 3 :)

Friday he and I went to KY to go to the mall and have dinner. I got these gems :

YAY!! & We ate at the OutBack Steakhouse, amazing!

Saturday though, we slept in :) ran around, watched movies and DRANK. We had planned on going out with my roommate Jessica and her boyfriend, Kyle. We started off by playing drinking Jenga & then went bar hopping. We were too drunk at the end of Jenga to remember to take pictures but here are the ones from the house :)

Or is he these days?

I suppose it depends on the couple. These days there are more women being the bread winner and *shocker* stay at home Dads?! YES!! But obviously, what works for one couple wont work for all.

Growing up, my Daddy worked his ass off to provide for our family. He was a single father, which isn't the 'norm', but it worked for us. He owned his own business so he never missed a dance recital, football game, choir concert or gymnastics performance. In the 8th grade my friends and I decided to embarrass ourselves and sing the national anthem before a basketball game and he even made it to that! We were a normal middle class family that didn't come as easy as it looked. My Dad wanted to sell his business but held on for an additional 6 years until we were all old enough to get jobs on our own and provide for ourselves.

On the other hand, my Mother was with a man for years who went above and beyond to provide. My Mom couldn't work and he was lacking a high school diploma but he was still able to work factories. He took a beating as he got older but he never gave up. He knew that us kids were my Moms, (as well as his now) life. There were even times he would pawn his belongings when I lived with them so that I could buy stuff for my school projects.

What's the point? Point is, I have grown up with strong men in my life who have suffered jobs they didn't necessarily love, but did them because they HAD to.

My boyfriend, Kyle, work at a factory now. The bosses are unfair, his co-workers are lazy and/or annoying and he hates it. Kyle has always been a hard worker so it really angers him to work so hard and see other people who aren't working as hard yet the bosses favor them more. When I left for school we decided that I wouldn't work so I can focus on my grades. That I would live off of my refund check as long as I can and then towards the end of the semesters Kyle would help me out.

Lately, Kyle has been talking about quitting his job. He has talked about it for a few months and talked about how much he hates it but would always continue to go and life went on.

He wants to go back to school which I think is great! We worked together to come up with the plan that he would apply for the winter quarter and start school January 2012. We also said that since he was only going to go part time, that he would get a part time job.

Kyle missed the deadline to send him his financial aid due to pure laziness. Harsh? Maybe. But it's (mostly) true. I think that there was some fear mixed in too. He graduated in 2006 so that is a LONG time without being in school to decide to go back. I completely understand that he may have been a little apprehensive but he knows that they don't just shove you in classes.

That being said, Kyle put in his 2 weeks on Sunday. After a heated conversation I told him that I supported any decision he made. Of course, regardless of him no longer going back to school this Winter, he was still supposed to keep his job until the first of the year. I told him that I fully supported his decision and stood by it. That I don't want him to continue going to a job that makes him so miserable, which is true.... but I'd be lying if I said that I am happy he put in his two weeks.. at all.

Could he have chosen any worse timing?! Yes, here I am being selfish but we had a deal, a plan. Not to mention I don't work, the holidays are coming up and it will be both of my nephews' first Christmases and all of the driving back and forth to KY (which costs money) I am going to have to do over the holidays.

I'm not against getting a part time job while I am in school. Kyle and my Dad told me that they don't want me to. My Dad pays my car insurance & fills up my tank every time I go home & I couldn't be more thankful. Without Kyle's income, I will be walking on thin ice and as if I don't have enough to worry about with finals coming up, now I have to worry about groceries and bills and not getting Starbucks :(

I just feel like in a way he is being irresponsible. We had a deal, a plan.. and I depended on that. Him having a job was my tightrope holding me up financially for the last moth of classes each semester and now it's clearly broken. We had a big heart to heart when he came down to my school this past weekend ( pictures to come next time =] ) & I felt really bad about wanting him to keep him job if he is honestly that miserable. I will stand by his decisions and support him because I want him to be happy. Buttttt sometimes I wish his decisions were MY decisions also. :)

So now what's he going to do? Sleep all day and play video games until he finds a job. Mind you, a part time job because eventually he will start school. What do I think? That there is NOTHING attractive about a man sitting in his Pj's playing video games and working at McDonald's.

To me it's just lazy and irresponsible and honestly I could strangle the boy. I love him, but I don't always have to like him ;-).

I don't believe that I am making a bigger deal than need be about it because to him, I've let it go and supported him. To my blog however, I am a stressed out bitch and need to scream.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
^^There you have it.